Thanks y’all

We’ve been married for almost four months now. We had a wonderfully incredible day and night surrounded by our amazing families and friends. Since then, we’ve moved into our new apartment, I’ve travelled to Borneo on a work trip and we’ve been on our spectacular honeymoon – during a Thai Coup I may add (more on that to come).

And I’m finally finding the time to sit down and actually write. This post goes out to our wonderful bridal party.

When we sat down to talk about our bridal party, we contemplated only having our siblings and one or two close friends. But when it came down to it, and we asked each other who we wanted by our sides, thirteen names came out.

On the day, we had six very handsome groomsmen and six beautiful bridesmaids. But it was more than just the day. It was the lead up to the big event that was so special – and it was mostly down to them. It was the hens night and the bucks night, the kitchen tea, the night before steak dinner and the onesie movie night.

You see, we had quite a unique situation.Jess & Daniel_0961 Our bridal party are all friends. And not just friends who know each other from around, but close friends who see each other every week. Most of them went to school together and for me, some of my bridesmaids actually knew my husband before they knew me. Nothing was awkward about people meeting each other for the first time. The whole process was a time shared between a very close-knit group of friends, watching two of their friends get married. And we really felt the love.

On the day, many people couldn’t quite figure out why I was so relaxed and calm. I woke up bright and early to my gorgeous nephew running around (you couldn’t even tell that he’d had less sleep than normal) and soon after my bridesmaids arrived. I was looked after the whole morning – food was magically put in my hand, water in my glass. We spent the morning giggling, chatting, eating and being pampered. My poor father!

The girls helped me into my dress, with my parents looking on, and made me laugh all the time. Surrounded by those six girls, there was nothing that could possibly stress a bride out.

Want to know how to avoid becoming that dreaded b-word? Surround yourself with loving people who really, truly want the best for you. Surround yourself with people who want to help you, want you to be happy and want you to feel loved. Because at the end of the day, they’re the ones you’re going to be spending the lead up to your special day with.Jess & Daniel_0931

They’re the ones who are going to be with you when you wake up, get dressed and walk down that aisle.


And if you choose right, they’re the ones who will make you feel like the most important person in the world.

And then as quickly as it started it was all over. The ceremony was done and dusted, the photos were snapped and the dancing was finished. And we found ourselves alone, for the first time all day. And all we could talk about was how amazing our groomsmen and bridesmaids had been.

Our wedding wasn’t just about us. It was a very special time for our families as well. And it was a very special time for our very close group of friends, who made our day about so much more than just two people.

Wedding bells

I often wonder whether I should find a niche blogging subject, rather than just spilling my thoughts as they come to mind.

I’ve been reading a lot of other blogs lately, and most of them are based around one single topic. But then I think, well isn’t this supposed to help people get to know me? What better way to do it than to simply spill my mind as I see fit.

On my mind at the moment … weddings.

With four weddings coming up over new year and my own impending nuptials in just over three months, it’s hard not to think weddings all day.

So of course, the majority of blogs I’ve been reading revolve around weddings. Hair prep, make-up trials, dresses, table decorations. There’s so much to think about that it’s very easy to get swept up and become that dreaded B word. Yep, I’m talking bridezilla.

I’ve prided myself in not being a bridezilla and surprisingly, the wedding planning process has been relatively easy (did I just jinx it?). I don’t quite understand how people get to that stage of being so demanding that no one actually wants to work with you, or indeed, be part of your bridal party. But as I was talking to some of my girlfriends who have their own weddings coming up, I began to see how women can get there. Not that they’re there. They’re just facing some extra stress that I don’t seem to be experiencing.

I’ve been exceptionally lucky to have a wonderful fiancee who backs our decisions to anyone who questions them. And we’re both so fortunate to have four parents who so lovingly say ‘it’s your wedding and they’re your decisions’ while still quietly steering us in the right direction, yet supporting us even when they don’t necessarily agree with our decisions (here’s looking at you mum).

I guess my view is, and always will be, that there’s more to a marriage than the bride and the groom.

Those people who raised you, those siblings who have been by your side forever and those friends who will surround you and support you on your wedding day, they’re what a marriage is about – unconditional love, everlasting friendship and most important of all, family.